Educating Our Youth

In class this past week, we've been talking about how physical intimacy not only brings children into the world, but it also brings a husband and wife closer together. It is sacred and should be reserved for marriage, but the world does not seem to see this. They abuse the sacredness of the law of chastity. It seems that false message of "it's ok to have sex outside of marriage" is being spread and accepted all around us.
So here is a question then.... How can we prevent our youth from following this popular worldy trend? Their marriages will be stronger if they wait until ther are married to be physically intimate with their spouse. And when should they be educated in these issues (ex: the difference between girls and boys, the birds and bees, the importance of marriage between man and wife, etc...). The world will teach them if we don't, but how early do they need to know in this era?
Another thought: it is not only important for the youth to know that we should keep the law of chastity, but WHY they should keep it! I think if they understand the principles, they will follow them.

I would really LOVE commentary on these issues. Please feel free to post your thoughts and opinions!

Transitions Leading to Marriage

There are four main stages that lead to marriage (and end in it). First we have dating. This is normally between several different people doing several different activities (not dating exclusively). It is not hanging out. Next is coutrship. This is exclusively dating; the couple should really be using this time to get to know each other. One important aspect about this area that our culture seems to forget is that we should only date exclusively if it could potentially lead to marriage. The stages between dating and courtship should also be distinct. It should not just be "slid into." There is less committment if this new stage has not been clarified.
The next stage is engagement (ring+date=engagement!). Something that I hadn't previously thought about in this area is the difference between planning a wedding, and planning a marriage. The wedding is one day, but the marriage for life (and eternity, depending if it's in the temple or not). It's so crucial for both the man and woman to take part in planning not only the wedding, but especially the marriage. This is a new union being formed. They will be a different unit from their parents and will be starting their own family. The last stage is, (of course!) marriage. Couples will definitely spend some time adjusting to each other especially during the first month and year of marraige. :)

Love vs Infatuation

This past week, both my marriage and family relations classes have been discussing marriage preparation. One thing that really stuck out to me was the difference between love and infatuation.

             LOVE                                                                    INFATUATION
-Is a growing ralationship                                              -Being in love with love
-Not jealous or selfish (of each other)                             -Can be casual
-Is patient and considerate                                            -Can be one-sided
-Based on knowledge of other's                                     -Immature
  interests, family, and friends                                        -Tense, worrisome about 
-Grows together through trials                                       the relationship
-Both have freedom to develop                                      -Having a crush
 own interests                                                             -Not interested in person's
- A decision and a feeling                                             friend's & family                                         

I love this list. It really shows the depth involved in love. You care about the whole person, not jsut certain aspects. You are willing to grow with them through the hard times you face together. Love is beautiful, and it is made even more sacred through marriage.

Another interesting thing we talked about was the idea of soul mates. There really is no such thing. There are several people that we could get along with, love, and marry. However, as you work to strengthen your marriage, you become soul mates. I thought that was cute! (And it's true!)
                                                                                                                                              

Marriage: Between Man and Woman

This past week we have been discussing the differences between genders. The conclusion that I came to is that we have these differences (ex: aggression, compassion, different orientations) so that there may be a balance. At the end of the week we also discussed homosexuality. We know that it is not biological, but I was astonished to disocver that many people turn homosexual because of things that happened in their youth. Many of these people were molested or often told that they were different from others in their gender (and they were teased about it!). Later they might ponder on this and think "oh, because of this I must be...". This saddened me so much. I think a lot of this could be avoided. No one is born "gay". We need to do our part and not label others. In class we heard several stories about people who would turn homosexual just because people would label them as that, and then they couldn't be accepted as anything else. Things such as this did not happen to all of these people, but I believe that it affected many of them. My teacher also made a very interesting comment concernig this area. He said that "being informed and loving others is the most important thing we can do to help others." We need not accept their lifestyles, but we need to still love them and help them see that they are children of God. He loves them dearly and wants them to come back to Him.

However, I think that the world needs to be reminded that marriage is between a man and a woman. Our Heavenly Father designed it that way. Not only does this create a balance, but couples are also able to bring children into the world through this means. This cannot come to pass between homosexual couples. Children have a right to be brought up by a mother and a father! We need to support the family.