There are four main stages that lead to marriage (and end in it). First we have dating. This is normally between several different people doing several different activities (not dating exclusively). It is not hanging out. Next is coutrship. This is exclusively dating; the couple should really be using this time to get to know each other. One important aspect about this area that our culture seems to forget is that we should only date exclusively if it could potentially lead to marriage. The stages between dating and courtship should also be distinct. It should not just be "slid into." There is less committment if this new stage has not been clarified.
The next stage is engagement (ring+date=engagement!). Something that I hadn't previously thought about in this area is the difference between planning a wedding, and planning a marriage. The wedding is one day, but the marriage for life (and eternity, depending if it's in the temple or not). It's so crucial for both the man and woman to take part in planning not only the wedding, but especially the marriage. This is a new union being formed. They will be a different unit from their parents and will be starting their own family. The last stage is, (of course!) marriage. Couples will definitely spend some time adjusting to each other especially during the first month and year of marraige. :)
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