Concerning abuse, we were discussing a very well-known therapist, Cloe Madanes, who specializes on dealing in this area. There are three steps she recommends that those who have been abused need to understand.
1. Evil is Always Stupid
Many victims struggle with trying to understand why someone would do something so bad to someone else. The main answer is that there really is no good reason for someone to commit such crimes. There is no logic behind it.
2. When a violation takes place, it always hurts your spirit.
Those who have been hurt need to understand that their worth has not been decreased because they have been violated. They are still valuable and precious people with much potential. They are still beloved children of God.
3. Help them understand that what happened is a very limited part of their life.
This does not and should not define their life! If it helps, they can even subtract the minutes they have been violated from how many minutes they have been alive. Help them to focus on the positives in their life and to be able to see the potential for so much more good!
This whole area is a hard and saddening topic. I am still learning more, but I appreciate what I have learned so far. There are many people who need help and could lead better lives if they just understood their value and how to continue in their lives.
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